Do we ever really know what's in store for us?
I've been thinking about my future a lot lately, and what I would like to accomplish.
Things have ended with the guy that I was seeing.
I can't help anyone that refuses to help themselves.
Not to mention the new "celebrity" status that he achieved...
((being on the Maury show does NOT make you a celebrity))
My roommate is going through a divorce right now.
They had a child together and are fighting over custody.
I testified in court today supporting my roomie.
I'm scared to get married.
Terrified of having a child/children.
What if someone tries to take my baby away someday?
Heather, you are superwoman to me.
I cannot believe how strong you are through all of this.
Let me ask you this...
Why do we date people if we know that we will never marry them?
Are we wasting time?
Should we still keep our options open if we're in an "exclusive" relationship?
Should we only date people that we can imagine marrying/having children with?
If he's on Maury, he must be taking a paternity test because that's all they do anymore on that show! lol Or does he work backstage? Anywhoo, probably for the best that he's gone from what you've said. You're right in saying that you can't help someone who does not wish to help themselves. It just ends up frustrating both of you.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you're feeling this way because of what's going on with your roomie, but I do have to say that not all marriages/relationships end up that way. I am really lucky to be in a great marriage. It's all about finding the right guy. As for the question about just sticking around even if you know their not marriage/future potential, I don't think it's wise personally. If you have a bit of an idea about where you would like to see yourself in the future or you at least know that marriage and kids will be important to you someday, you should only spend time on finding a guy that could meet those future potentials for you. Otherwise, you're just wasting time. On the flip side of that, you may not know right away if their marriage/children/future potential, so it's not a bad idea at times to just see where things go. Give it a timeline, a goal. If you're not seeing the potential in 3 months, I would move on.
I hope you're doing okay and hopefully this helped a bit. :)